Useful Advice For Moving On From A Relationship

This is a guest article by Lucy Wyndham

Letting go of a relationship is almost never easy. Even if there were more ‘downs’ than ‘ups’, getting over an ex is often described as one of the hardest things to do. As painful as letting go may be, however, it is one of the most empowering things you will ever do for yourself.  Not only will you be able to reclaim control over your own life again and regain your confidence, but you will also learn to accept that not everything is within your control. If you have been struggling to let go of an ex, there are a number of things you can do to make it easier to let go of the relationship.

Make peace with the breakup

One of the most important things to do in order to move on from a relationship is to make peace with the breakup. While this may be extremely hard, it is also one of the most important steps you will be required to take. In order to process the grief and loss associated with the breakup, you need to be present in the moment and acknowledge what has happened. If you find yourself starting to dwell on the past, make an effort to focus on the here and now instead. If you need to vent, do so, but instead of trying to pinpoint exactly what went wrong, make peace with it. Also, as tempted as you may be to get your ex back, always keep in mind why you broke up in the first place. There may be many methods and guides that claim to be able to help you win back an ex, but ultimately making peace with the breakup is probably in your best interest.

Be kind to yourself

It is very natural to blame yourself, not only for your breakup, but also for every argument or misunderstanding you had during your relationship. While this is a common road to venture down after a relationship has come to an end, it is a very dangerous one. Instead of beating yourself up over what could have been, accept that you are human and that you are not perfect. Show kindness to yourself by forgiving yourself for what has happened, and pay attention to both your physical and mental health. If you find yourself overwhelmed with pain, consider seeking out a therapist, who will be able to help you deal with your anguish.

Start living again

The sooner you can fully embrace life again after your breakup, the sooner you will find yourself moving on from the relationship. You more than likely lived a very happy and fulfilling life prior to the relationship, and you can do it again. Focus your attention on things that make you happy, and surround yourself with close family members and good friends that are supportive of you. Make a bucket list of things you want to see and do, and make an effort to tick them off. Spend time doing things that make you happy, whether it is taking a long bubble bath or going for a long hike in nature. It may be difficult to readjust to a new lifestyle, but the sooner you make an effort to do it, the sooner you will realise that you are able to be happy again.  

Dealing with a breakup is never easy. Thankfully, there are a number of things you can do to help your heart heal faster.